• Neurodivergent Conflict Styles, Part Two

    When one person needs to talk and the other needs to shut down, conflict can feel personal even when it isnโ€™t. This piece explores how different nervous systems seek safety, how misunderstanding escalates conflict, and what changed when we learned to regulate first and communicate later.

  • Neurodivergent Conflict Styles, Part One

    I wasnโ€™t arguing as a child. I was explaining. But explaining myself was often mistaken for defiance, and being misunderstood didnโ€™t just hurt emotionally, it dysregulated my nervous system. This piece explores how neurodivergent conflict styles form early, and why the need to be understood can follow us into adulthood, shaping how we handle conflict…